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Dating and chat sites for adults
Adult dating and chat sites are for meeting real people, which makes them different from every other section here. They are also where most scams happen: fake profiles, bots that push paid upgrades, and people who move the conversation elsewhere to ask for money or pictures. Read dating red flags before you message anyone.
Well-known platforms
- AdultFriendFinder: one of the oldest adult dating sites, with a large membership, chat rooms and member-uploaded content. Free sign-up; messaging and most features need a paid membership.
- Feeld: an app for open-minded singles and couples, including people in open relationships, with an emphasis on consent and clear profiles. Free to use, with a paid tier.
- FetLife: a social network for the BDSM, fetish and kink community. It works more like a forum and events board than a dating app, and is free to join.
- SDC: a long-running community for swingers and couples, with events, travel and club listings.
- Pure: an app for short-term, no-strings meetings, with profiles that expire after a set time.
How these sites charge
- Free sign-up, paid contact. Most let you create a profile for free but charge to send or read messages.
- Monthly memberships that renew automatically, often cheaper for three or twelve months paid up front.
- Credits for extras such as boosts, gifts or video chat.
Staying safe
- Keep conversations on the platform until you trust the person. Platforms can block scammers; a private messaging app cannot.
- Never send money, gift cards or crypto to someone you have not met, whatever the story.
- Be careful with photos. Intimate images can be used for blackmail (sextortion). If it happens, stop replying, do not pay, keep the evidence and report it to the platform and the police. StopNCII.org helps adults stop intimate images being shared on participating platforms.
- Meet in public first, tell a friend where you are going and arrange your own transport.
- Check for bots. Instant replies with generic compliments, pressure to "verify" on another site or links to webcams are signs you are not talking to a real person.
Chat without dating
If you want conversation rather than meetings, live cam sites with chat rooms or creator platforms with messaging may suit better; see live cams and creator sites.